Rant:Over-Confidence or Insercurities?

Hello Everyone,

          Yet again, sorry about being MIA. Life continues to throw stones at us but so far I am still swinging a bat. I just want to give you a bit of an update on the blog and what is coming. As mentioned in a previous blog post which I will link here, I have decided to turn this blog from a beauty blog into a lifestyle blog. What exactly is a Lifestyle blog you ask? Well, I won't be as focused on beauty. I want to revolve around alot of different things such as home decor, fashion, food and sensitive subjects. Ofcourse, I will still talk alot about makeup but I want to be able to cater to everyone. Also, I have another announcement. In a few days time I will be yet again changing the name of my blog. I am changing it to reflect a more personal value that I feel like this needs. Some of you may be extremely stumped by the new title but I will explain when I reveal the new name.

       Moving on to today's post, while pinning recently, I came across a quote that really stuck out to me. It was so simple. As you probably know, it is the picture posted and it begs the question, if someone brags about the way someone speaks of them or how amazing they look, are they over-confident or are they just plain insecure? This is something that is very near and dear to me, because through out my life I have had many who have stumped me on this question. Growing up insecure with who I am, I often thought people who bragged about themselves we just very confident and I almost wanted to be them. But as I grew up and my personal confidence began to grow, I realized things. I post alot of selfies, as many of you may know if you follow me on instagram. Alot of people seem to think that I am insecure with myself because I post so many. I have sat down, mind-boggled, thinking that maybe they were right.I'd think: I do like my makeup in this picture, and the filter makes my skin look flawless and my eyes look crystal blue. I had to come to the conclusion that posting selfies doesn't make me insecure.

     On the other end of the scenario, there are people I know who brag about how beautiful, fit and young they look. They brag about pick-ups, hook ups and how everyone is in love with them. They also make you feel like you aren't any of those things and that you need to change. They don't encourage you to love the skin your in, but rather, they want to rip you to shreds. Why? Well, here is my theory, I am plus sized, to some, fat, chubby, thick, meaty, large, whatever you want to call me. But I am truly okay with where I am at. Unless I feel like my health is at risk (which I don't) then I am good. People who have it all, always want more, they will never be happy unless someone else wants to be them. And when they see that I have no desire to be them, they wonder why, what is wrong with them? nothing! I just don't need to be you to be happy. So, yes, I believe that those people, are insecure, not over-confident, plain, old fashioned, insecure. So, yes, I take alot of selfies. Am I insecure? No. I just like how crystal blue my eyes look with this filter. Do I have my insecure moments? Absolutely! Who doesn't? But I am not a star shining a bright as I can while still wishing to be as bright as the sun. I am happy and no, I most certainly do not want or need to be like you. You be you. I'll be me.

  

   I hope this rant made sense and I hope you can all relate. Thank you if you stayed till the end.

Until next time...

XXO

Hot Trend Alert: Bold Lips

Hey all you Beauties out there in cyberspace,

              Well it's Friday and that means it was payday for moi and payday equals shopping. I ended up in Sephora (Yes, when I say "ended up" I mean "made a bee line for it") and I really wanted to find a bold and funky lip color. You know when you go into Sephora there is like a rainbow of lip colors and a huge variety of brands to choose from. I was looking for more of my normal, pink, red or coral but I noticed a purple color from Makeup Forever and instantly fell in love. Bold lips are a huge deal for the season and I gotta say, I'm lovin' it. I just love how diverse all the color palettes are. It's super exciting. But some people (including myself at one time) feel like it takes alot to pull off bold lips. They think it will wash them out or that people will look at them funny. Well, here are a few pointers for pulling off bold lips.

Tip #1
Bold lips are fun, a raspberry color in the fall can warm up any look. A hot pink in the summer can make a beach day your very own photo shoot and a cherry red can make anything look good. But sometimes people underestimate the power of a bold lip. They go way too far. When thinking bold lips, think in terms of less is more. You really don't need a whole whack of eye shadow on your eyes to pull of the bold lips. My first tip is, when wearing bold lips, take it easy on the eyes. A naked eye will allow the lipstick to do all the talking. I like a do a matte skin toned shadow all over (up to the brow) and a thin winged liner on top. On the bottom I usually opt for a gold or white liner. This gives definition without screaming overdone.

Tip #2
Bold lips are fun but only if the color lasts. I have learned this lesson the hard way. I have got out of my house with some awesome, sexy bold lips but by the time I arrive at my destination, the lipstick has worn off and only lines my lips. This is a problem alot of us have and I find when I skip this step, I regret it later. Here's the deal: You want to apply your lipstick (preferably with liner but that doesn't always happen), Blot, reapply, blot and reapply again. This seems like alot of work but trust me when I say, you will notice the difference. You can even apply a dab of translucent powder between coats as well and you can do a third round of application for a more intense color, if you desire.

Tip #3
Take your time. This is the most important tip because the way you apply bold lipstick defines the way it will looks at the end of the process. Sometimes life gets rushed and we just need to hurry out the door, but lipstick defines the look and you never want to rush a high pigmented color. High pigmented colors can leave a stain when removed, therefore no matter what you do to try and remove it, there will always be a faint stain. My thing is, follow your natural lip line if possible and if the lip line is undefined, then use a lip pencil in the closest shade to the lip stick color you are using. This will help give an even shape.

Tip #4
My final tip for you is, wear your lipstick with confidence! Sometimes when trying something new that no one has seen you in before can make us self conscience that people are staring and lets be honest, sometimes when someone walks into a room with bright orangy red lipstick we tend to notice that first. But when someone walks into the room and shows that no matter what anyone thinks, they feel fabulous, that's when these colors work.

I hope this little list of tips gives you some food for thought and helped you decide if the bold lips trend is for you. Remember, 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder', so if you think your beautiful, the world will too. So go out and rock those bold lips!

Up Next on The OBQ: Ever heard of 'tight lining'? If not, you'll want to check out my next post AND my review of E.L.F is coming soon too! Stay Tuned...

 

Biggest Beauty Secret Ever

What do you think the biggest beauty secret ever is?

• Implants
• Botox
• Lasers
• Facials
• Massages
• A health diet
• Lypo
• Gastric Bypass

Some of you may have selected one or two of the above procedures. Or if your like myself the answer was none of the above. My biggest beauty secret is confidence. I know, I know, it's so cliche. But that being said, let me explain myself before you close this window and jump off.

Comfort and Confidence Go Hand In Hand.What does that even mean? Let me explain. Comfort is so important to most people. When you put on a pair of comfortable jeans doesn't your mind just breathe a sigh of relief? Have you seen that girl standing in the corner with a pair of jeans on that look about 2 sizes to small? Why is she probably standing in that corner? Well, most people would say it was because she was shy and just didn't want to be a social butterfly. I have been that girl and you can bet your sweet buns that most of the time, that's not why she's in the corner. Would you want to be seen in jeans that gave you a muffin top and bulgy thighs? Yeah, neither does she. She may have gained a little weight or the case may even be that he jeans accidentally shrunk in the wash. Whatever the case may be, she is uncomfortable with how she feels. Therefore, confidence is lacking. This comes down to my point, that if you are comfortable in what you have on (that being sweat pants or high heels) your confidence gets a boost. Are you following so far?

OK, so how is this my biggest beauty secret ever? Well, let me finish. Have you ever heard the phrase 'Seeing is Believeing'? What an interesting phrase that is, 'seeing is believeing'...Let's examine that for a second. So, if you see that your mom is making dinner, you believe that our going to be eating dinner shortly...hmmm...Well then, if you see yourself as a beautiful, amazing person, others will too. So, here is what I'm getting at, have you ever met someone and at first sight you kind of may notice a flaw in that person, for instance, they are super short. But you start getting to know that person and you suddenly don't even notice the flaw. That person believes that they are 6 feet tall and suddenly, so do you. Something in your mind set changes. So, if you come across as a confident, beautiful and worthy person, others will see that you are exactly as you seem.

I have been down this road many times, with myself and others. It is probably one of the hardest things to develop. The other day at work my co-worker said to me, 'I love your hair today'. My immediate response was 'Thanks! But this side is so messed up!'. I couldn't just accept the compliment and move on. I quickly had to let myself know that Wasn't perfect, and neither was my hair. If I had simply aid 'Thanks!' she would have never noticed the fact that my hair was messed on one side. That is such a hard habit to break.

At the end of the day though, 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder'. Everyone is going to view beauty a different way and that's something we have to accept. But if you view yourself as beautiful, the 'beholder' might just follow in your footsteps.

Love Sarah

P.S- Do you agree? Is 'seeing' 'believeing'? Have you had to develop confidence? Or have you already developed it? What's your secret? Hit up the comments...